Why We Still Live Here
Monday, October 6, 2008
After the last posting Why Do They Stay?, I anticipated hearing the question, "Why do you still live there?" And I have. The question has come from several sources since many of you link my blogs with your own or send them to your friends. In addition, quite a few newspapers printed that last one ...
My point is that I have had more than ample opportunity to talk about and think about my answers. And they are not as simple as I'd first imagined. The answers are shallow in places, but some go much deeper than I thought they would. Please remember as you read, this is only my opinion. We are not arguing a "truth" here. That being said, I am interested in your "whys" about where you live. I'll bet some of yours line up with mine.
Here now, five reasons why we still live here ...
1) Ya gotta live somewhere!
After Hurricane Ivan destroyed our house four years ago, my business manager was promoting a move to Nashville. "You never know when this might happen again," he would say. A few months later, a tornado hit Nashville killing 27 people and destroying hundreds of homes. Obviously, they had little warning. When Ivan hit here, at least they told us to leave. And no one was killed.
I suppose we could live in Nebraska or Oklahoma, but they have tornados there, too. The Pacific Northwest is beautiful. Mount St. Helens and Sasquatch ... need I say more? Minnesota ... you can die shoveling snow there. New York City? I imagine terrorists standing in line in New York City. Washington D.C.? You never want to be the smartest person in the town where you live (I'm kidding). Maybe California ... ? Nope, sorry. I'll take my three day hurricane warning. You can wake up to your earthquake. Or fire. Or mudslide.
Anyway, ya gotta live somewhere. So I do.
2) Kevin is here ...
And Pat and Sandy and Joe and Alan and the Habers and the Salters and the Gilleys. John and Shannon are here with Lacy in the summer. SB lives here. And PC and the Woo. Jerry and Katrina, Mike and Melanie, Greta and Greg, Ted and Kathryn, Cliff and Myrth. Debbie and Steve are moving back soon with Eli and Bailey Grace. Hopefully, Mr. Dave and Miss Mary will be close behind. Claudia and Hunter and Shelby live right across the street. Joey and Elizabeth, (whom I continue to love even though they sent my boys home with TWO kittens) live here.

The church we've gone to for fourteen years is here. The blond lady who works at the dry cleaners who always puts the cleaning in the car—she's here. Clay and Susan and Becky and Tom, our pharmacists at Winn-Dixie all live here. Dr. Art, the Chiropractor, Miss Nancy who drives the Auburn pick-up, Merle at Cotton Creek, Ted and Lynn at Pack & Mail, Nancy and Willie at Sea N Suds ...
These are just some of the awesome friends who live near us. And most of the other people here are just like them. There is something special about these folks and this area. When Hurricane Ivan blasted through Wolf Bay Lodge (one of our favorite places to eat), some of the things to blow away were the more than 10,000 one-dollar bills that had been signed and stapled to the ceiling throughout the past twenty years. No one knows how many were lost at sea, but of the bills that were spread over thirty miles of coastline, 7,500 of them were returned. That's right. More than seven thousand, five hundred one dollar bills returned with a "We saw it was signed, so we knew it was yours," to Wolf Bay Lodge.
We can't leave this area. If we left, we'd have to take everyone with us!
3) Fresh Seafood.
Last Friday night, Pat called and asked if we wanted to go fishing the next morning. We did and had filets on the grill that night. Kevin came in with a couple of yellowfin tuna on Sunday afternoon. Polly fixed the rice and we had sushi ... immediately. We catch blue crabs off the dock, speckled trout, flounder and redfish under the dock lights at night, and drag a trawl for shrimp whenever we want them. Several years ago, I caught 110 pounds of shrimp in one morning!
Yeah, yeah, I hear you. "Andy," you are saying, "we get fresh seafood, too!" No, sorry, you probably don't. Unless you live on a coast and/or catch it yourself, it isn't fresh. I know the sign says fresh in the store. I know the waiter says it's fresh at the restaurant. But believe me—a day or two on the boat, a day in the truck, and a couple of days at the store before it goes to the restaurant ... is not fresh.
Catch them in the morning. Eat them that night. That's fresh.
4) Unique learning opportunities.
One example: our salt-water aquarium. Understand, this is not one of the big expensive saltwater tanks with a thousand dollars worth of fish. Our aquarium is a $59.95, twelve-gallon set up from Wal-Mart. No special mixture for the salt water, no thermostat, no testing. It's just shells from the beach, three or four buckets full of water from the dock, and whatever critters we catch in our own backyard.
Austin and Adam spend hours with their cast nets. They keep the aquarium supplied with pets like our seahorses Flicka and Ed, the little electric ray Sting Ray Knight, and our clam ... Clamu. We have starfish and scallops and pipefish, too. Aquarium feeding time is a family event for us and it happens several times a week. All the critters eat tiny shrimp that we wade through the grass beds to catch (even in winter) with a tiny meshed net.

And while I am thinking about it, even winter is pretty warm. We might have one or two nights a year that go below freezing, but most Decembers, Santa rides around our town in a red '55 Thunderbird convertible.

5) My history is here.
I read somewhere that almost 90% of us feel strong ties to a specific city or state. I guess I do. My parents honeymooned on the Alabama coast in 1957 and took a week's vacation here every year until they died. My sister, Kristi, and I went on all those vacations and in a way, grew up here. I see things that remind me of them every day. So many of the restaurants and the businesses and churches are in the same place.
Daddy took me to Frith's bait shop to buy our live shrimp when I was a little boy. Soon after Mama and Daddy died, I worked there for a while, selling those shrimp by the dozen under the watchful eye of Mr. Frith. Now, I take my little boys in to buy shrimp from Mr. Frith's son, Butch. I could catch them myself, but Butch shakes their hands and teases them about the size of the fish in the stories they tell. It's worth whatever I have to pay to feel that sense of my daddy in that shop watching the grandsons he never got to meet.
Polly and I lived in a small condo when we got married, but we have only owned one house. It is the same one we live in today. It is where our boys have always lived. It is where I write. It is the place we have laughed most often, cried occasionally, and come to know ourselves. More than a house, it is our home.
So that is why we still live here. Not the greatest of reasons, maybe, but they are our reasons. And even through the stressful years after Ivan—even though we swore if it ever happened again, we would move—I suspect we might be here for a long time still. No matter what.
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1. Cary Harvey - October 6, 2008 @ 5:34 PM
For #1-5 that's why they call it home."
2. Charissa - October 6, 2008 @ 5:43 PM
3. Debbie Alexander - October 6, 2008 @ 5:50 PM
I bet this blog could go on forever because even lots of the people who leave, come home....and they would all have a special reason why they did...or why we stay."
4. Michelle - October 6, 2008 @ 5:52 PM
5. Roger J. Kaiser and Janie - October 6, 2008 @ 5:54 PM
6. Juanita Owen - October 6, 2008 @ 5:56 PM
life back into perpective.
If someone is lucky enough to be here year round, good for them. The
storms will come. I have spent a few hours in a closet in North Alabama waiting for tornado threats to pass. So really we all face weather issues. Hurricanes just seem to cover a wider area. None of us are storm free, but if we are prepared hopefully we will make it through.
Love your work, Keep blogging and tell Mr. Smith hi from his friend at
UAHuntsville."
7. Carol McCracken - October 6, 2008 @ 5:58 PM
8. shirley - October 6, 2008 @ 6:03 PM
9. Jeanne - October 6, 2008 @ 6:09 PM
Another great blog Andy."
10. Jim Skelton - October 6, 2008 @ 6:29 PM
From having known you most of your life, and knowing your values, I am not surprised with the answers you have given to living (still) where you live. Home, in my opinion, has never been overrated. In this day and time, with the world getting smaller and smaller, we can get to anyplace within a few hours. So, it really does not matter where we live, from a business standpoint. So, enjoy your moments "at home", continuing to get acquainted with those that all of us will be "at home" with someday."
11. martha green - October 6, 2008 @ 7:01 PM
12. dduncan - October 6, 2008 @ 7:30 PM
When all is said and done...it is a matter of the heart. When you feel it is a place God has planted you...then it is a good place to grow!
Thanks for sending refreshing reading my way...in today's happenings, it truly is a blessing."
13. dduncan - October 6, 2008 @ 7:38 PM
14. Marianne - October 6, 2008 @ 8:08 PM
And that's why I read your blogs Andy. They always touch my heart and bring back to that warm place, where I remember my Blessings.
There's no place Home..no matter where our Hearts take us..."
15. Henry Minnema - October 6, 2008 @ 8:13 PM
Frankly, you have a more legitimate case on why we live in Michigan...we keel over shoveling snow here as well."
16. Tom - October 6, 2008 @ 8:54 PM
Thanks for sharing ...you touch hearts."
17. jan burch - October 6, 2008 @ 9:32 PM
I love you "guys" - meaning you, Polly, Adam and Austin!! Don't ever move!!! jan burch"
18. Frances - October 6, 2008 @ 9:34 PM
I don't live there, but love to vacation there. Even made a point to go to Wolf Bay Lodge after reading about it in The Island of Saints - loved it too - thanks for the suggestion. It's so beautiful and as you said - the seafood is amazing! I don't like shrimp up here (in Pennsylvania) any more after having it the day it is caught down at Tacky Jacks and Wolf Bay Lodge!"
19. Rhonda - October 6, 2008 @ 10:31 PM
I'll just stay and hunker down for the next storm with the Good Book and a good book...got any new ones coming soon?"
20. carol from florida - October 6, 2008 @ 11:21 PM
21. Valerie - October 6, 2008 @ 11:40 PM
22. Allen - October 7, 2008 @ 12:58 AM
You didn't mention the #2 in the nation U of Alabama Tide?
Oh well I sure can relate to your thoughts...and even more than just my home town and home state that I am proud of and am attached to it made me reflect on how glad and blessed my family and I are to live in this country!
Even during perhaps the worst economic times in almost 80 years there is no other country that we could call home.
Thanks
Allen"
23. Rudy Noll - October 7, 2008 @ 9:06 AM
out that my final assignment prior to my military retirement was - now here comes the Butterfly Effect - Ft. Mclellan, Alabama! I served my final three years at Ft. McClellan, then retired in the Anniston - Oxford area. I made many good friends, beame involved in community activities, relished bass and crappie fishing, and playing golf on the Robert Trent Jones Trail. I lived there until 2003, when my job at Honeywell was eliminated, and my wife and unfortunately divorced (I wish I had met Andy before then). I moved to Tampa, Florida, and still live there. Tampa Bay is a great area for many of the reasons Andy mentioned. But there is something missing. I guess it is best expressed in the Neil Diamond song, "I am, I said". There is a part in the refrain that goes, "LA's fine but it's not mine - New York's mine, but it ain't home no more..." I think that says it all for me. Those roots that started growing during my childhood years in Alabama became my real "tap roots". Now, I miss Alabama down deep inside where all of our most sensitive feelings lie. Of course, I am Tampa's #1 Crimson Tide fan, and I read the Birmingham News and Anniston Star online just to stay in touch in some manner with my roots. Yes, Andy, it is true that almost 90% of us have strong ties to a specific city or state. I hope I just showed you the real reason why."
24. Patsy Rose - October 7, 2008 @ 1:21 PM
25. Butch Jeffries - October 7, 2008 @ 1:58 PM
It's interesting how I now call home a very quaint Chicago suburb called Naperville, IL. Many magazines rate it as one of the top places to live in our great country. It has a great HS football rivalry. This past week the defending state 8A champion Naperville North Huskies defeated the Naperville Central RedHawks. But the game wasn't deecided until late in the 4th qtr. The Chicago stations proclaimed it the game of the week and they even have to play it at a local college stadium to hold the crowd. Oh, the memories of those Lions taking on the Pirates from Fairhope. (Daphne didn't have a HS back then.)
The values I learned back then that I try and instill in my son today. "All my life I want to be a Husky, work, work, baby work, work." My family is here now so this is where I belong. But the values I learned growing up around Wolf Bay Lodge and Safe Harbor Marina will always stay with me. You are absolutely right about the fresh fish, so I traded the boat for an RV. I traded the beaches for the tundra. But one thing is constant. We live in a beautiful, magnificent country. My son will grow up and call this home. Grandpa and Uncle J will always bring home a deer, and we will celebrate when he gets his first deer, his first Salmon, just like we did down home when I was growing up on Alabama's beautiful gulf coast. My ringtone on my phone also allows me a little nostalgia. Everytime someone from "down home" calls, my phone plays that great Alabama tune, "My Home's in Alabama, no matter where I lay my head, my home's in Alabama, southern born and southern bred. So while 90% do have solid ties some of us are lucky enough to keep some of those ties and even start new ones in a new place with new people.
Thanks so much Andy for the inspiration you provide me and my family."
26. Bon in 'Bama - October 7, 2008 @ 2:13 PM
People just don't "get it"...why we stay. However, your blog is the best explanation I've ever read on the topic.
However, your explanation also brings up a baffling question...when does this man WRITE? :-)
Surely, Andy Andrews is "Father of the Year."
Bon in Atmore"
27. Bob Woodall - October 7, 2008 @ 3:12 PM
28. Marion from Dauphin Island - October 8, 2008 @ 9:21 AM
I find it so disturbing that no one in political office or even in effected businesses realize the value of Alabama's barrier islands to protect the mainland, Mobile Bay, the Mobile Ship Channel/State Docks (the main artery for Alabama shipping, intercoastal waterway and downtown Mobile business districts from the storms of the past and future.
The costs to rebuild and strengthen Baldwin and Mobile countie's barrier island "speed bumps" is negligible to the cost from the destruction and lost production days if these barriers are allowed to wash away as Dauphin Island has been allowed to.
Please keep up you erudite commentary on this region."
29. Annette - October 8, 2008 @ 11:45 AM
30. Larry Grossman - October 8, 2008 @ 12:40 PM
I've got some news for you Andy, your a canary, not a puppy dawg.
Cheers.
http://eaglerealestateblog.blogspot.com/
LG"
31. Becky - October 8, 2008 @ 1:55 PM
A positive attitude is a choice, and no matter how "things" are economically, politically, financially, always 80% of anything (relationships, health, finances, job) is good, and that's what we need to focus on.
Got another book coming out soon ...... I'm ready! You're my favorite!
Blessings and gratitude,
Becky"
32. Frances Tindell - October 8, 2008 @ 5:49 PM
I remember you, Andy, when I was your librarian at Girard Jr. High. You were such nice students -- the worst things you did was getting out of line or chewing gum!
The best to you and your family. I'm happy to be back in touch with you."
33. Kyle & John - October 9, 2008 @ 10:54 PM
34. Shelby Tidwell - October 12, 2008 @ 2:58 PM
35. Renee Badertscher - October 12, 2008 @ 10:31 PM
36. Dana Malave - October 15, 2008 @ 8:37 AM
After listening to you talk the last 2 days , I realize that home for me isn't where I want to raise my kids. I want to create that memory that you share. I don't have those same great history ties with town. Altought I just transfered my kids to my elementry school . We eat at the pizzeria for lunch where the son now runs it. I think I am ready to let go and start better memories for my kids. I have had a crazy childhood. I want my kids to create new footstep and not exactly follow in mine. For me it is all about breaking the cycle of my life and giving them a better oppurtunity. I expect from myself to give them a home that they will want their children not to leave. They will want their kids to have those same memories that my husband and I have given them."
37. JP - October 15, 2008 @ 5:17 PM
You are truly awesome. I heard you speak in the Bahamas at our conference you are absolutely amazing. Then I had the opportunity to meet you on a shuttle bus later that night with another couple my wife and I were with. It was great to talk to you and Polly. Thanks for the pictures!!!"
38. Tom Powell - October 21, 2008 @ 12:52 PM
Today is a new and adventurous day. I made a choice to use my life to make a difference. I have been doing personal ministry work in the inner city of Atlanta for years. I go to work everyday and spend my evenings and weekends serving the last, the lost and the least. These past months I have made a unique transition to bring my personal expertise and my ministry work together into a new Social Enterprise.
In the next sixty days my family will be moving to Ghana, West Africa. We will be building beautiful homes for very low-income earners. Bringing home ownership and real wealth creation opportunities to the poor. Ghana is only the starting place. We plan to spread this social enterprise all over the world. The 'Choice' is no longer 'Lost.'
Thanks Andy, you are an inspiration. Perhaps one day we will meet and I can share some truly amazing stories with you, many of them inspired by your work."
39. Rick - October 23, 2008 @ 2:51 AM
40. Frances - October 23, 2008 @ 10:28 AM
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